When starting your own big thing you will encounter times you need to give feedback. When you have the opportunity to give feedback you should keep in mind Gibb’s supportive behaviors:
Description: Make sure you focus on describing very specific behavior so the person can repeat the behavior if it is positive feedback you are providing or isolate the behavior if it is negative feedback.
Problem Orientation: Focus on the task not on the person! Most importantly focus on behavior they can change versus labeling them.
Spontaneity: Give feedback in the moment when you see the behavior. Make it relevant!
Empathy: Make sure you show concern for others. Make sure you take the perspective of the person you are giving feedback!
Equality: Beware of little status differences, say “we,” “us,” “our” versus owning your feedback and using I and coming from a place of equality.
Provisionalism: Finally be tentative/flexible: “We could . . . One way we might do that is . . or I think this is what is happening…Remember things are not always what they seem!
Go out and Live your BIG life! Give positive feedback when you can and always give feedback it is a gift!